The fake language of intimacy

You know, everybody says, ‘Have a nice day’. Can you imagine if you went — like turned back to them and said, ‘God, I really wonder if I’ll have a nice day or what the day will be like,’ things could get complicated very suddenly, you know.

I don’t think we’re less capable of love and commitment and relationship in a mature sense in our time than previous generations were. I think we’re more unpracticed at it and therefore more desperate for it. And I think it’s a matter of attention really, just attention. That if you realize how vital to your whole spirit — and being and character and mind and health — friendship actually is, you will take time for it, you know. And the trouble is though for so many of us is that we have to be in trouble before we remember what’s essential. And sometimes it’s one of the lonelinesses of humans to hold on desperately to things that make us miserable and that sometimes we only realize what we have when we’re almost about to lose it.

So, I think that it would be great to step back a little from one’s life, and see who are those that hold us dear, that truly see us, and those that we need, and to be able to go to them in a different way. Because the amazing thing about humans is we have immense capacity to reawaken in each other the profound ability to be with each other and to be intimate. That’s one of the things I’ve always noticed is that, you know, there is this intense loneliness everywhere which is covered over by a fake language of intimacy similarly met everywhere.

~ by Natalie on 14 March.